Grinding

There are two types of teenagers... there's girls and there's boys. One can usually find these creatures at school dances, and when there are girls and boys in a sweaty room together, the inevitable happens... grinding.  For those of you who have never heard of it, here is the urban dictionary definition:

Grinding: Also Known As Dirty Dancing. When a girl is rubbing her butt all over a guys dick until it comes to the point where he gets a woody

In recent years this cultural phenomenon has been increasingly popular. Let's first look at the causes. This era of music, particularly hip-hop (although country is this way too) is dirty. And by dirty i mean very suggestive in the sexual realm. As a teenager we tend to listen to this music on a day to day basis, which means we engrave in our brains that it is okay for people to be blatantly sexual in the dancing/music category. And like i said the surroundings don't help either. dark room+ girls showing skin+ dancing+ dirty music= teenagers doing dirty things.. grinding. Seriously, that is not exactly a formula for purity or abstinence.  The next cause is hormones. I don't really need to go into an elaborate explanation, it's pretty standard.

Now let's look at adults. Teachers, Parents, Administrators, etc. have been going acrad over this issue for about the last ten years. And somewhat drastic measures have been taken because of it. In fact I have read several articles where parents took evasive action to prevent the grinding from happening. Particularly, by way of public disgrace. The idea is that at the dance, adults will bring flashlights and shine them on the grinders, exposing them to public disgrace, and stopping said behavior. While this is a great idea, i don't think shining a campfire flashlight at a teenager will stop them because in reality they can just move to a different location.. but great job mom. I have also heard the technique of teaching teenagers some fun dances before the school event. (i.e. Salsa, swing, etc.) I honestly would love to have a lesson or two myself but as far as the goal of preventing grinding goes, there is still that equation listed above. Dark room+girls showing skin+dancing+dirty music. SO nice try but it doesn't eliminate the fact that we're still horny teenagers no matter how many "neat" dances you teach us.

I personally have been exposed to many forms of grinding, and in my experiences i have found that there are two kinds. The first i like to call "standard grinding", which is more like dancing and less like having sex. The girl and guy are in more of a standing position and her butt is slightly touching his genitals but by and by it's.... slightly okay. The other form of grinding is the type that you see and you basically feel like you're watching a live porno. The girl's butt is scrunched into the guy's genitals, usually their knees are slightly bent, and the guy is putting his hands all over the girls mid to upper thighs. That my friends is a significant difference.

And to be honest not many teens fight anyone on the subject, but as i made my transition to a private school i started to hear "the rebels" (mostly horny guys) defending it. They said things like "All grinding is, is dancing. So what's the big deal?"

First off let me say that nobody in there right mind would start off an argument like that.

Well i have to agree, that grinding is indeed dancing, but the reality is, it is completely unacceptable. But it is very inevitable (Like i mentioned in the formula). In order to take away the effect, which in this case is grinding, You must take away the cause, which is I'm sorry to say is hormones. And this simply cannot be done and for good reason to, because we would have no more babies and everyone would die out.

But hey, I'll let you know when adults actually come up with a solution to grinding. You never can tell what bright ideas they will come up with next!!